ROBERT PORTER, BETSEY FORD, and LUCY HANNAH
1764-1843 1765-1794 1767-1850
For many years all we knew about our ancestor Robert Porter
was his name, the name of his wife Betsey Ford, the birth dates of their two
children, and the fact and date of Betsey’s death four days after the birth of
their second child. That information came from the Porter family history
written by Mary Ann (Mrs. George) Porter in 1923.
Following the visit of Esther and Fred Gross to the
Bethlehem cemetery in May of 1995 (see letter to Robert & Betsey), Esther
exchanged correspondence with the town historian of Bethlehem, Evelyn Paluskas.
Unasked, Evelyn hand- and photocopied and sent to Esther many pieces of the
historical record. At first, no connections seemed to appear between Robert/Betsey
and any of the new information, but little by little, some important pieces
began to emerge and fit together.
As of October 1995, we know the following:
On November 6, 1792, just three years after George
Washington’s first election as President, Robert Porter of Bethlehem,
Connecticut, purchased a piece of land from a Simon Martin. The copy of that
deed, provided by Evelyn, is the oldest actual record we have in any of our
family information. Since Curtis was born December 29, it is easy to imagine
that Robert made the purchase in preparation for the birth of his first child.
The deed makes no mention of buildings on the land at the
time of the purchase. But we know it was common for homes in other parts of New
England in the early nineteenth century to be quite large, often with two
stories, well furnished and quite fine. Some homes from that time (and earlier)
still stand in Bethlehem today.
Robert’s piece of land was bordered on two sides by land
belonging to a Thomas Ford. Was he Betsey’s father? or perhaps her brother? So
far, we have not been able to confirm a connection. If Betsey was a member of
this Thomas Ford’s family, then 1794 was a doubly sad year. On January 13 a
daughter of Thomas Ford named Mary Ann died, and in April Betsey died. No age
is given for Mary Ann, so it is impossible to know whether she was a small
child or a young woman. The fact that no separate birth date is given may
suggest the former, perhaps even a baby under a year. That might suggest Thomas
was a brother (rather than father) of Betsey (or Mary Ann could have been a
RECORDS NOT FOUND
Despite all her searching, Evelyn has found no birth records
for any Fords, only a couple of marriage dates for Ford girls (Susannah in 1788
and Polly in 1797--Betsey’s sisters?).
What Evelyn has found are a variety
of land sales from Thomas Ford to
various others, as well as one sale to Thomas Ford, Jr., describing the land as
bordering on Robert Porter’s land. Evelyn suggests the Fords may have owned
landed in Bethlehem but not lived there.
Though Evelyn has found many dates for Porter births, no
birth record has emerged for Robert Porter. From his headstone, we can
calculate he was born in 1764, but we have no information about his parents.
This makes it possible he was born elsewhere.
However, one piece of information from Evelyn Paluskas
reports that “a Robert Porter was ‘bound out’ as a young boy to Dr. Bellamy
[see note on Dr. Bellamy] and entered the Revolutionary Army at 16, in 1776.”
This sounds as if it could well have been our Robert, except it makes him four
years older than his headstone does.
This makes it at least a possibility that Robert served in the Revolutionary army,
undoubtedly as a teenager. In response to a direct question, Evelyn reports
that “bound out” simply implied apprenticeship and that Robert likely learned
farming from Dr. Bellamy.
One of the most important pieces of information which turned
up is a wedding date for Robert’s second marriage. Most of our wondering about
how he raised his two motherless babies are answered. We now know he married
Lucy Hannah on January 4, 1795, following Betsey’s death on April 21, 1794.
We also know Robert and Lucy had at least one child of their
own—Alfred, born January 24, 1802, when Robert was 38 and Lucy 35. Since that
was seven years after their marriage, it would seem there might have been
others, in which case it is a mystery why no records of their births have been
found, unless they all died at birth or in infancy.
Information from Evelyn tells us that Alfred voted in the
elections of 1824 (no record of Robert ever doing so). Wonder whether he voted
for John Quincy Adams or Andrew Jackson? Two years later, when he was 24, he
married a Lucina Hannah. The similarities between her name and his mother’s are intriguing, but we have
no information to establish a relationship between them.
An even more intriguing piece of information is that Alfred
named his daughter Betsey as
well—which makes four Betsey Porters in the family, three of them born to the name! This Betsey was
Betsey Jane; Curtis’s daughter was Betsey Ann (we do not have middle names for
Curtis’s mother or sister). Betsey Jane is mentioned in the cemetery records
copied by Evelyn. She was born March 23, 1832, and died March 29, 1858, age 24.
So far no record of other children for Alfred and Lucina.
A SURPRISINGLY FULL PICTURE
We can now reconstruct a surprisingly full picture of the
life of Robert Porter,
including his birth the year after the end of the French and Indian War, his
marriage sometime in his twenties (perhaps as old as 27), and his purchase of
land, presumably for a homestead.
Seven and a half weeks after Robert’s land purchase, son
Curtis was born, and fifteen and a half months later, daughter Betsey. What a
tragic and difficult birth that must have been since four days later, April 21,
1794, the 29-year-old mother Betsey died. We can only imagine how hard that experience
and the following months must have been. As was a common necessity in life in
those times, eight months later, Robert remarried.
Robert apparently lived out his life in Bethlehem. He and
Lucy raised Betsey’s two children and at least one of their own. Before 1811
(i.e., age 19), Curtis left Connecticut for central New York [see Curtis Porter
history]. In 1817, Robert’s daughter Betsey married Ephraim Birdsey Peck of
nearby Newtown (Porter family history).
When Robert was 62, his son Alfred was married (Nov. 1,
1826). Six years later granddaughter Betsey Jane was born. That means Robert
had two granddaughters named Betsey, in addition to his first wife and his own
daughter. When he was 73 (1837), his New York granddaughter, Betsey Ann, was
married in nearby Woodbury, Connecticut.
This seems to suggest that at least some travel took place between Curtis’s
family in New York and his roots back in Connecticut [again, see Curtis Porter
At age 79, one month short of 49 years of marriage to Lucy,
Robert Porter died (Dec. 3, 1843). He was buried beside Betsey, and Lucy was
buried there when she died seven years later.
TWO MYSTERIOUS PORTERS
Two most interesting people turned up in the Bethlehem
records—not only interesting but mysterious since we don’t have evidence to connect them to our ancestors. The first
is a Robert Curtis Porter (1868-1950). His parents were a John Porter (born
12/1/1834; died 10/30/1912) and Wealtha Cowles (1838-1904). John and Wealtha
were married March 16, 1859, nine years before the birth of Robert Curtis.
Since Robert Curtis wasn’t born until 100 years after our Robert and 76 after
Curtis, it seems strange, even if he were somehow a descendant, that he should
have been named after those two.
We learned from Evelyn about a house in Bethlehem which she
refers to as “the Porter house.” It belonged to the Robert Curtis Porter who
died in 1950. His daughters inherited it, and when they died in the early
1990s, it went out of the family. Evelyn gave us the address, and Esther wrote
to the current owner inquiring what he knew of the history of the house.
Apparently he did not know anything special because he did not reply.
So far, we do not have an established connection between
John Porter with our Robert. It seems possible he might have been the son of
Alfred and Lucina Porter; note that he was born just two years after their
daughter Betsey Jane—but again, we don’t have names recorded for his parents.
The other intriguing person is a David Curtis Porter,
reportedly born in 1800 and dying in 1886. One record Evelyn sent actually gave
his parents as Alfred and Lucina Porter—but that could not be since Alfred
himself wasn’t born until 1802. So who was this other David Curtis Porter, born
in Connecticut before the David
Curtis we know was born to our ancestor Curtis in New York in 1817? (that David
Curtis migrated to Michigan with the rest of his family and died there—so it
does appear there were two of them).
Still lots of questions, but we surely never expected to
know this much about an ancestor so
far back in time! (By contrast, note how much we know—or rather how
little—about Robert’s contemporaries in the family, the two William Comptons
and the Stauffers of Lancaster, Pennsylvania.)
DR. BELLAMY OF BETHLEHEM
Dr. Bellamy was an educator and early leader in Bethlehem;
the cemetery is on Bellamy Road and the Bellamy home is a major tourist
attraction in Bethlehem. The Bethlehem historical sketch tells us he arrived in
the earliest days of the town [see “Bethlehem, Connecticut, Growing and
Thriving in Colonial America”], at age 18, to preach. He is described as “a
good land owner as well as minister, for by 1750 he had acquired 2 houses [and]
23 pieces of property.”
In 1750 Dr. Bellamy published True Religion Delineated, “a work what brought fame at home and
abroad.” This resulted in “an influx of students to learn of Bellamy and
started the first Theological Seminary in America. His method of teaching was
surprisingly modern” [no explanation of what that means]. It also resulted in
“the honor of a degree of Doctor of Divinity from the University of Aberdeen,
Scotland, one of the few of that degree in the country.”
All of this would have predated by as much as two decades
the boy Robert’s being “bound out” to him. Of course we would like to imagine
that a theological scholar such as Dr. Bellamy would have possessed the
compassion of the Scriptures towards those who worked for or served under him.
Footnote on Betsey’s family:
Spring 2000: The following was received from another
Porter descendant met via an Internet message board. Lo and behold, she had
information on Betsey’s family that Evelyn Paluskas didn’t have! The following
is from an e-mail: